Value to others
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Value to others (VTO) is the core value of the Mindshop organization and means that if you focus on the needs of others, you increase your personal feeling of self-worth; if your self-worth is high, you are less likely to sabotage yourself; and if you reduce your self-sabotaging behavior, your personal success will increase.
Most people understand this philosophy but fail to implement it – it can often take years before VTO kicks in and you see direct results. Generally, people want rewards for doing things in their lives - financial rewards, job satisfaction, job security, recognition, personal growth, holidays, and more. So how do they get these rewards? Most would provide answers such as hard work, effort, boosting capabilities, and tenacity. However, there are plenty of people who do all these things and still don't get the rewards. In addition, the persistent negative self-talk we tell ourselves such as “I’m not good at this” will make you feel less worthy of rewards and success when it does happen and often lead to self-sabotaging behaviors.
The good news is that your self-worth can be augmented by a value-centric outlook – Value to Others (VTO). Imagine you were out for a walk and came across a lost wallet. Many would think things like "If I hand it to the police they will keep it", or "If the person was careless enough to drop the wallet, then they deserve to lose it”, or even, “I need it more than someone else does”. The likely outcome is that you would keep the money for yourself, but what does that do for you in the long term?
Those who live by the VTO philosophy would take the wallet to the police, not caring what they did with it, or expecting anything in return, as they believe it is the right outcome and would feel proud of themselves for handing it in. It doesn’t matter what the police do with it as it’s not about the wallet owner, it is all about your self-worth. What stops many from following this philosophy is the time lag between providing VTO and getting the rewards. It takes time to build up the self-worth but once it reaches a certain point, the rewards and success start to trickle out. As you practice more and more VTO, the trickle grows into a stream and ultimately a flood. Searching for ways to benefit others every day will encourage growth, crucial in avoiding self-sabotage. The negative self-talk will evaporate and when success comes, you will have the self-worth to know you deserve it all.
Most people understand this philosophy but fail to implement it – it can often take years before VTO kicks in and you see direct results. Generally, people want rewards for doing things in their lives - financial rewards, job satisfaction, job security, recognition, personal growth, holidays, and more. So how do they get these rewards? Most would provide answers such as hard work, effort, boosting capabilities, and tenacity. However, there are plenty of people who do all these things and still don't get the rewards. In addition, the persistent negative self-talk we tell ourselves such as “I’m not good at this” will make you feel less worthy of rewards and success when it does happen and often lead to self-sabotaging behaviors.
The good news is that your self-worth can be augmented by a value-centric outlook – Value to Others (VTO). Imagine you were out for a walk and came across a lost wallet. Many would think things like "If I hand it to the police they will keep it", or "If the person was careless enough to drop the wallet, then they deserve to lose it”, or even, “I need it more than someone else does”. The likely outcome is that you would keep the money for yourself, but what does that do for you in the long term?
Those who live by the VTO philosophy would take the wallet to the police, not caring what they did with it, or expecting anything in return, as they believe it is the right outcome and would feel proud of themselves for handing it in. It doesn’t matter what the police do with it as it’s not about the wallet owner, it is all about your self-worth. What stops many from following this philosophy is the time lag between providing VTO and getting the rewards. It takes time to build up the self-worth but once it reaches a certain point, the rewards and success start to trickle out. As you practice more and more VTO, the trickle grows into a stream and ultimately a flood. Searching for ways to benefit others every day will encourage growth, crucial in avoiding self-sabotage. The negative self-talk will evaporate and when success comes, you will have the self-worth to know you deserve it all.